Personal behaviour
Posted: 11 Jun 2014, 15:56
Gents,
Recently there a small disagreement between two of our patrons which they, I believe, have successfully resolved between them. This is good.
However, what has come to light is that more than one member here felt the need to pm one or other of the parties and say something which the receiver felt was unnecessary and over the top. This is not good.
Let me state quite clearly here, this is not acceptable. People occasionally have disagreements. Invariably these things get worked out when both sides take stock of the situation.
What neither side needs is an alliance forming to protect a particular viewpoint. These alliances normally result in a small local dispute being blown out of all proportion and the situation becomes very nasty and spills over and becomes uncontrollable.
For scholars of history, this is how World War I started.
Now on this forum we like everybody to have their own point of view and express them. We treat people like adults and expect to behave accordingly. We don't think that this is too much to ask of someone. If people can't treat others with respect then punitive action may be taken.
Please do not think that because the staff are not ranting and raving on this that we are not serious about this.
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Now, leading on from this point. Whilst I am not happy that this situation came about what I am grateful for is that the abuse was not posted on the forums. This at least leads me to believe that the situation is manageable. All that we now need is that people think before they that post that pm.
You can always 'feedback' to individuals but remember that language is important. If the words you use are going to inflame somebody then your message gets lost and your post becomes irrelevant.
Again I stress that we treat people as adults. So I am not going to search for those involved. However, if anybody felt that the tone that they used in a pm was disproportionate I leave it to them to take any actions they may/may not seem appropriate.
Recently there a small disagreement between two of our patrons which they, I believe, have successfully resolved between them. This is good.
However, what has come to light is that more than one member here felt the need to pm one or other of the parties and say something which the receiver felt was unnecessary and over the top. This is not good.
Let me state quite clearly here, this is not acceptable. People occasionally have disagreements. Invariably these things get worked out when both sides take stock of the situation.
What neither side needs is an alliance forming to protect a particular viewpoint. These alliances normally result in a small local dispute being blown out of all proportion and the situation becomes very nasty and spills over and becomes uncontrollable.
For scholars of history, this is how World War I started.
Now on this forum we like everybody to have their own point of view and express them. We treat people like adults and expect to behave accordingly. We don't think that this is too much to ask of someone. If people can't treat others with respect then punitive action may be taken.
Please do not think that because the staff are not ranting and raving on this that we are not serious about this.
---===*===---
Now, leading on from this point. Whilst I am not happy that this situation came about what I am grateful for is that the abuse was not posted on the forums. This at least leads me to believe that the situation is manageable. All that we now need is that people think before they that post that pm.
You can always 'feedback' to individuals but remember that language is important. If the words you use are going to inflame somebody then your message gets lost and your post becomes irrelevant.
Again I stress that we treat people as adults. So I am not going to search for those involved. However, if anybody felt that the tone that they used in a pm was disproportionate I leave it to them to take any actions they may/may not seem appropriate.